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Spongebob Causes ADHD?

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I recently did some testing with a second grade boy because his dad was concerned about his impulsive behavior.  The boy’s father had a conference with the Palm Beach Schools teacher and the teacher said the boy talks excessively, rushes through his school work, finishes so quickly that he walks around and disturbs other children, and slides out of his chair.  If you have a son does this sound familiar?  The types of behaviors the teacher and dad described could be related to ADHD.  After all, they sound like ADHD types of behaviors since impulsivity and lack of attention to detail are characteristics of ADHD.

The dad continued to say the boy has a short attention span at home, bounces from activity to activity, and does not complete tasks.  The boy does enjoy TV and especially Spongebob.  What surprised me was that the boy’s father asked me, “Does Spongebob cause ADHD?”  I replied, “No.” There is no direct link to Spongebob causing ADHD.  There was a study in 2011 that suggested watching just nine minutes of that program can cause short-term attention and learning problems in 4-year-olds.   Sixty kids were assigned to groups that watched Spongebob, Caillou, or drew.  The kids that watched Spongebob performed lowest on measures administered immediately after the activity.  However the study was severely limited in that it did not test kids before watching TV.  Thus, we don’t really know if these kids were lower to begin with or if it was something about the TV program.

I offer comprehensive testing for ADHD/ADD.  It should include more than just a behavioral checklist or rating scale.  When I test a child for ADD/ADHD it includes neuropsychological tests of attention and executive functioning.  Most kids with ADHD have significant difficulties on these types of tests.  Thus, it removes the subjectivity of a person’s opinion on the rating scale.  Direct testing, observation, interviewing the teacher and parents, are all just as important as any one rating scale.  If you are concerned your boy or girl may have ADHD then contact me to get testing.  Most parents believe the insight gained in testing gives them peace of mind and specific direction for helping their child.  They don’t waste time and resourses doing things that don’t help the child.

7 Steps to Help Reach His Potential

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As a parent, it’s frustrating to know (and most parents assume they know) that your child is intelligent but yet, in school, does not work up to what you perceive to be his or her potential. Parents become discouraged and call their child lazy, unmotivated, slacking, and other similar words.  When describing her son’s lower than expected grades a parent recently told me the old adage, “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.”   I agreed but responded with, “You can salt the hay.”  This means we can entice our children to perform better academically but ultimately the best drive to perform must come from within.  So, how do you help your child reach his academic potential?  It’s an ongoing process since your child did not spontaneously arrive at their current state overnight.  Of course, you must believe in your child, encourage and affirm their efforts, provide homework help, and be her advocate.

But how do you really help your child reach his or her academic potential?  Here are 7 steps to help you help your child reach his or her potential. 

Step 1.  Determine his or her potential through a comprehensive evaluation.  You can’t really know how hard to push your child without knowing where your child is at cognitively.  It could be like your car not performing the way you want it to and instead of looking under the hood, you just yell at it.  Open the hood, check out what’s really going on.

Step 2. Based on the evaluation, set up a realistic plan.

Step 3. Specify short and long term rewards as well as consequences.

Step 4. Explain the plan to other key players and obtain their support.

Step 5. Implement the plan.

Step 6. Evaluate the plan weekly.

Step 7. Adjust the plan based on the weekly feedback.

Repeat as needed. Often it’s helpful to have a counselor, therapist, etc. available as a
mentor to help you work through these steps. If you need ongoing help then one of my associates can help you with the process.  I can help you with the assessment to determine your child’s true potential.  It’s not as expensive as you think so call me to discuss your child.

If you like to read books to help you gain new insight, read Rick Lavoie’s book called “The Motivation Breakthrough.”  I especially like his advice on competition in schools.  You might enjoy it too.  He explains that many teachers say it’s good for school to be competitive because that’s how things are in the real world.  Rick argues that is not always the case because in the real world we only compete when we want to.  In schools a child can’t tell his or her teacher, “I’m not doing the class spelling bee.”  They are forced to compete.  He suggests parents and teachers have students compete to do their personal best rather than being the best. He has some other good points too.

 

When Should You Stop ADHD Medication?

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Many parents grapple with the question, “Should I start my child on medication?”  but just as many parents also wonder when they should stop medication.  Some children will need to be on medication throughout their childhood and adolescent years. Other kids may be on medication throughout this time but, if their medication allows it, take holiday breaks such as weekends, summer, and extended breaks.  There may come a point where your child or teenager says, “I don’t want to take this medication anymore.”  Can you force him or her to take the medication?  This often becomes a battle that many parents face.

Ask yourself this question. Are my child’s grades satisfactory? If your child’s grades are satisfactory than he or she may not need the medication. Ask yourself this question. Is my child continually getting in trouble? If the answer is no, it may be time for a medication break.  Many parents are concerned that if their child stopped taking the medication their behavior will worsen for their grades will slip. Yet, at what point does the child need to start taking responsibility for their behavior and work? The pills don’t replace the skills that your child needs to be successful. If you stop the medication you may have to provide some tutoring or coaching to help your child learn the skills.

As parents we need to provide the support our children need. If they need the medication than continue it but if your child is asking for a break you believe he or she is ready for the responsibility that perhaps it’s time to stop the ADHD medication.

25 Ways to Help Your Teen with ADHD

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Some teens struggle socially and teens with ADHD must have good people skills in order to live life to the fullest.  After all, building relationships is one of our primary functions as a human being.  In order to help your teen I recommend using the book 25 Ways to Win With People, by Drs. John C. Maxwell and Les Parrott.  It’s packed with practical ways to build relationships.  The writing is readable and not at dense or technical. It includes many stories to illustrate the 25 key points.  And the book is small.  It won’t overwhelm teens that are immediately turned off by thick, textbook-style volumes.  I encourage parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and important adult friends to read the book ahead of time, or together with the teen. This allows for important common grounding. In other words, everyone has the same information. That opens the way for discussion and shared experiences or ideas. How might your family work this valuable book into your routine? There are two ways you might do so:

Save this book for summer reading, when the academic demands of school lessen.  Read the book in advance, and let your son know that over the summer he’ll be reading an excellent and potentially life-changing book called 25 Ways to Win With People. For the first 25 weekdays of summer, he’ll read a chapter a day. Reassure him/her – the chapters average less than seven pages. It will take five weeks to complete the book. Each day, you’ll ask him/her to write a short summary of the key point and discuss it with you.  Role-playing is another effective practice tool. You can practice these new skills within the supportive context of your home, where he/she shouldn’t be as self- conscious as he/she might in public. 

 Make learning and applying the 25 points a family project. Together, the family agrees to read one chapter per week. Some parents set aside part of the day on Saturday or Sunday to have a short talk about the key point. For the entire week each family member works on applying the step. Family members practice with each other as well as out in their school, work, or daily activities. If the family has dinner together, they should talk about their experiences.  

Even though a new point is introduced each week, it’s important to keep in mind that earlier points don’t get discarded. Apply them as much as possible, especially if there are one or two you have found highly useful. This is what I call the “rent to own” philosophy.  We are teaching our teenagers to try the point out (or rent it) for a week.  If he/she finds it useful, he continues to rent it and use it. At some point your teen may decide that this point is so helpful that they’ll decide to own it and apply it on their own, because he/she has recognized its value in his/her life. 

 Think about your family and decide which way would work best for you.  Your teen will soon have 25 ways to become more successful with people.

When Kids Struggle

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Up to 20 percent of kids struggle to learn.  Reading is the academic area where most kids struggle followed by writing.  If you have a child that struggles in school then you know first hand how frustrating it is for your child.  Because of your child’s struggles you might call him or her names like lazy, unmotivated, or difficult.  Most schools are not equipped to effectively deal with kids that struggle.  Kids make some progress but not enough to overcome their difficulties.  So, what are parents to do? 

There are some good books parents can read to help their child.  Here are a few suggestions.  Overcoming Dyslexia by Sally Shaywitz, The Motivation Breakthrough by Rick Lavoie, Winning With People by John C. Maxwell, and The New Dare to Discipline by James Dobson. 

I also recommend an evaluation for your child because this process determines if there is a learning disability, information processing disorder, or other subtle issue that is the underlying problem.  Most kids and teens do not want to go to school and struggle.  When they struggle, battle with homework, argue, stress, and stomach aches and headaches increase you know there are real issues.  If you see these warning signs then consider having me evaluate your child.  You can find out what is going with your on for about the cost of a new set of tires and you’ll get a lot more mileage from helping your child.  Having answers can give you an action plan for your child and peace of mind for you.